Hello, 2019! How the heck are you friends? Did you ring in the New Year having a wild and crazy night out? Or were you like us and enjoyed the night in and asleep before the ball dropped? As excited as I am for the New Year, I just couldn’t stay up any longer. Life with a baby will do that to you, especially a baby who has been fighting croup for the last 4 days resulting in no sleep for any of us.
Just like everyone else, I’m sitting down, recapping 2018, assessing my goals for 2019, and wondering how the new year will go. Before creating all of my goals, I decided this year I was going to sit down and create a focus word of the year that my goals are going to coordinate with. This word can be simple or extravagant, one word or many words, but whatever you decide, make sure this word comes from the heart.
My 2019 word of the year is…
After going back and forth on a list of words, renew just kept standing out to me. There’s just something about the word that left me eager and excited for what’s to come in the new year. Once I researched the definition of “renew”, it made even more sense to me to choose this word, especially since there are multiples uses of this word. Dictionary.com defines renew as:
- resume (an activity) after an interruption.
- re-establish (a relationship).
- give fresh life or strength to.
In 2019 I plan to RENEW:
My Marriage //
Let me preface this by saying that Brad and I’s marriage is good. While I say that is good, it could be better. All marriages could be better, but in 2019 I really want to renew our relationship and focus on each other. During our attempt at conceiving a child, things in our marriage started to feel like a chore. Once we got pregnant, the two of us were over the moon and then the hormones hit. Brad was such a trooper dealing with all of my changing hormones during and after pregnancy. Since having Henry, our marriage has been solely focused on parenting. The two of us haven’t gone on a solo date since Henry was born…5 months ago.
With all of that being said, in 2019 I want to focus on renewing our love for each other and prioritizing a happy, healthy marriage. By prioritizing our marriage and making each other happy, we will become better parents. I’d love to sit down at the beginning of each month and plan an out of house date night and a couple of at-home date nights for us after Henry goes to bed. In addition to planning date nights, I’d love to focus on our communication with each other and limit screen time in the evenings. There’s been so many nights after Henry goes to bed that we sit and aimlessly watch TV while scrolling through our phones, which is so unhealthy.
My Faith //
Wow, this is something that I honestly didn’t see myself writing. My faith has somewhat diminished over the years but I’ve had a calling in the past couple of months to renew my faith. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that people come into our lives when we need them the most. My sister introduced me to one of her friends that she made this year and Megan has been such a positive inspiration to me and her faith has made me question my own faith and beliefs. Megan’s real and honest journey on her Instagram and blog has inspired me to renew my journey with God and faith.
Not only has Megan inspired my faith but so has The Milk and Honey podcast and Bailey Hawkins, the blogger behind Sequins & Seams. Like I said, I fully believe that people come into our lives when we truly need them the most and these 3 of all come into my life over the last 3-4 months. Is it a sign? I believe so.
A little back story, I grew up going to church every Sunday, or every Sunday that we could. During high school, things happened in my life that made question my faith, so instead of turning to God, I quit going to church as frequent. Once I got into college, attending church only occurred on holidays. While I didn’t stop believing, I didn’t encourage my believing. Since having Henry, finding my faith has been such a strong calling. Not only do I want him growing up with a spiritual upbringing, but I know that I need to find my faith again to be a better person and a better mother to him. This reading from Romans 12:2 says it all, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind”.
Lastly, my word of the year couldn’t be any more perfect to describe how I want to work on myself in 2019. This year I want to renew myself. While 2018 was the best year of my life thus far, I feel like I lost myself along the way. Becoming a mom is such a blessing but with all of the hormones and changes, I felt myself feeling alone and lost. I didn’t prioritize self-care, I didn’t prioritize my marriage, I didn’t prioritize my dreams. I simply went through the motions. In order to fully renew myself, I need to focus on my health, spirituality, and self-love. I’m so eager to find myself again.
At the end of the year, if these three areas are renewed, then I have succeeded. Choosing renew as my word of the year has never felt more right. All of my resolutions and goals are going to be centered around these three areas and each month I hope to dig at them a little at a time until I wake up feeling that I fully succeeded. While creating a word of the year might seem silly, it’s a great way to help find focus and not feel that you are just going through the motions.